Arguing with Kindness

Arguing with Kindness

Not one of my favourite philosophers (on the topic of consciousness), but great points/suggestions nevertheless. Next time you are about to engage in a debate, online or otherwise, try this out. I often try, but am not always successful so just need more practice I guess. 🙂

1: You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.

2: You should list any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement).

3: You should mention anything you have learned from your target.

4: Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.

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https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/03/28/daniel-dennett-rapoport-rules-criticism/

29 Replies to “Arguing with Kindness”

  1. Critics are informers and are of great value..even the snippy ones make you see your ego in it..Snarky ones let you know your doing well and the kind nice ones are disrespected.. and considered weak. And wanting something. I say keen a balance and know truth hurts yet pays off in the long run..The reciver doesn’t always get the correct message…we are human…

  2. J S ,the presented tactics to argue with kindness would work only provided that the target is not unreasonably adamamt on his position.Mostly people make even their wrong stand a prestige issue and continue to stick to it obstinately.

  3. Once on a colder night,walking on Rajpath,New Delhi found beggar shivering and just gave him my blanket which I was wearing on my coat and moved on.

    I was thinking whither I did the right thing or was it a kindness? No,I thought that it was my karma but then again why not for others?

    What I feel it’s the feelings on that instant to help which latter we quote to us as kindness.

  4. Laura Telly I HAVE CAREFULLY READ THE BIBLE (OLD / NEW TESTAMENTS),THE QURAN (MUSLIMS) AND THE GEETA (HINDUS).IN ACCORDANCE WITH THEIR FOLLOWERS THE CONTENTS OF THESE BOOK ARE DIVINE AND SENT BY THE GOD HIMSELF.BUT THE IMPARTIAL ASSESSMENT OF THE THEIR CONTENTS RESULT IN THE CONCLUSION THEY ARE NOTHING BUT THE MENTAL BANKRUPTCY OF HUMANS LIVING IN THE DARK AGE WHEN THE NATURAL AND SOCIAL SCIENCES DID NOT EXIST THAT LATER BURIED ALL THE GODS ALONG WITH THEIR MEDIOCRITY.THE GODS HAD TO DIE BECAUSE

  5. Since the idea is to criticize with Kindness, I would add an exit strategy.  One that comes to mind is to end the conversation by reiterating a point of agreement or some type of positive comment.  Many times this will leave them more open minded to your thoughts along with other benefits.

  6. constructive criticism comes constructively from knowledge perceived or gleaned but all should be in the form of a question especially in this for it is assumed. only when someone expresses there views clearly can one argue those points or even agree for that matter. at the end of the day knowledge is king but interpretation comes from all directions concluding internally.

  7. Harish Srivastava SORRY.WHY DO YOU RUN AFTER TO PROVE THE EXISTENCE OF THE GOD WHEN HE HIMSELF IS UNABLE TO PROVE THAT HE EXISTS? IF HE WERE HE WOULD HAVE PROVED BEYOND DOUBTS THAT HE EXISTS.OR LET US WAIT MORE AND TILL THEN HIS EXSTENCE SHOULD BE PUT IN PENDING.WHAT IS PROBLEM ? ALL THE RELIGIONS ARE PARASITES AND FULL OF SUPERSTITIONS AND PARADOXES.TODAY THEY ALL ARE DEPENDENT ON THE ACHIEVEMENTS OF SCIENCES ALL OVER THE WORLD.THIS IS THE PROOF THAT THEY REPRESENT THE DARK AGE OF MANKIND.☺☺☺

  8. They all new thoughts of years ago, But just like us, Greed and power got in the way of weak minds, We have it all, You can’t beat that. We have to teach higher thoughts to everybody, You never know who will pull it out of the atmosphere, The Code of creation hmm

  9. Religion is been good too me, I just know the 10 rules of the most high its what i go by, My God is God of anything everything that is good our bad, Just not evil.. You know the Devil is my God creation too you don’t have chance with the devil he is Brilliant and smarter then we will ever be. My God is pure Energy and love of you.

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